Guide to writing your Wedding Vows

Wedding vows are incredibly meaningful and powerful, as it is part of a wedding ceremony. Ever wondered how to summarise your love, dreams and promises to your partner all within a few short minutes? Putting all the emotions you feel into words may be overwhelming, but it gives you the chance to share with everyone your love story, giving them an insight on the beautiful moment between you and your loved one. 


 Essentially, your wedding vow, traditional or personal, should be short and sweet – up till two minutes is the perfect length, though it might sound short. 


There’s nothing wrong with traditional wedding vows, but personal wedding vows can make your wedding a little more magical and intimate. Here are some examples on traditional wedding vows, and a guide on how to write personal wedding vows.


Examples of Traditional Wedding Vows

Traditional wedding vows might not necessarily mean “boring”. When these traditional vows convey what you want to say, they are powerful and very real. You can always switch these vows up a little by personalising a few words here and there, if you and your partner want to be more creative. 

Whether you decide to stick with traditional wedding vows, these classic religious vows are romantic and commonly used.

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“I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.”


“______, will you have this woman/man, ______, to be your wedded wife/husband, to live together in marriage, will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor her/him and keep her/him, in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, so long as you both shall live?”


“I, [name], take you, [name], to be my partner, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the person you will become, and falling in love a little more each day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever life may bring us.”


Guide to writing Personal Wedding Vows

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Your wedding vows need not follow a traditional format if you’re going for a more personalised route. Opting to write your own wedding vows gives you and your partner the liberty to reflect upon your relationship, and not make it seem like someone else’s. Writing wedding vows are definitely not easy, so take the time to sit down and think about what you want to convey. 

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Here’s a guide on personalising your own wedding vow:

Structure your vow like a story.


You can start off by how you and your spouse met, which is how most couples begin, since not all of your guests will know your story. If you still remember your first impression – be it good or bad – write it down. This makes your wedding vow personal and unique. Quotes are a really good alternative to seek inspiration from when you struggle to find the right words. Perhaps a line from you and your spouse’s favourite movie or TV show together, or that book you both cried reading. 


Put your heartfelt emotions into words and deliver them. The main part of your wedding vow is about your spouse. How he/she makes you a better person, and how lucky and grateful you are to be by his/her side. Of course, don’t forget to add in what you love about them.


Last but not least, end off your wedding vow with your promise to your spouse. A good vow does not have to be long. Instead, say it with your heart and put your emotions into it. You only get to do this once.